peer support, collective inquiry, practice group 
meets online twice monthly

invitation

hello ❤️‍🔥 perhaps you are here because you want more intimacy with your own experience of being human.  

grief and pleasure club is a place to learn together while we bring love and attention to the edges of loss, longing, and desire.

what is this?

this is an ongoing online club where we meet every two weeks for a 90-minute session.  within the session, we learn and practice methods for welcoming the grief and pleasure in our lives with deepening understanding and capacity.  i believe we learn best through our relationships and through creating new paradigms together.  

this is a place to explore our experiences in an accepting, celebratory environment ~ to lean on each other as we learn to walk our own paths in a way that is truer to our hearts. 

it’s a place where we practice bringing greater gentleness to our grief and greater permission to our pleasure.

who is it for?

this is a carefully tended peer support space. somewhere to bring yourself a little more fully than you have before and to practice vulnerability in a place of warmth and kindness.  here, you are honored as both a learner and a teacher ~ your wisdom, experience, presence, ideas, and desires are valued and integrated.

this is for people who view life as an ongoing learning experience. 
people who want to take greater self-responsibility for creating the conditions within and around them. 
people who want a space where it’s safe to be softer, realer, rawer, unfiltered… and held.  a place where we can cry, explore, and play, and it’s all welcomed.  

what we'll explore

upcoming topics of the month

OCT

grief, gentle pleasure, freedom 
(inspo: Tonglen meditation)

session 1: sat, oct 17, 1-2:30pm PT (4-5:30pm EST)
session 2: sat, oct 31, 1-2:30pm PT (4-5:30pm EST)
 

NOV

boundaries & attunement 
(inspo: The Wheel of Consent)

session 1: sat, nov 21, 1-2:30pm PT (4-5:30pm EST)
session 2: sat, nov 28, 1-2:30pm PT (4-5:30pm EST)
 

DEC 

energetic pleasure expansion 
(inspo: Tantric Sex for Women)

session 1: sat, dec 12, 1-2:30pm PT (4-5:30pm EST)
session 2: sat, dec 26, 1-2:30pm PT (4-5:30pm EST)

what happens when we meet?

i recommend you join us for the first session of the month, followed by the second session of the month. this will give you an opportunity to settle into the space before experiencing our ritual practice. 

1st session of the month

• grounding & reading our grief and pleasure agreements
• a short meditative / somatic practice
• open discussion about our topic of the month in small groups of 3-4
• sharing what we are taking away to practice
• we meditate and generate a collective poem to close

2nd session of the month

• grounding & reading our grief and pleasure agreements
• sharing what we’re experiencing and generating collective intentions for ritual
• guided, collectively generated ritual to integrate what we are learning
• generating a collective poem that expresses what we experienced in ritual
   

a note on the “pleasure” part

this is an online group.  we openly discuss pleasure, eros, sexuality, sensuality, and desire in this space.  we are here to explore aspects of our own experience, not to have sexual encounters with others in the group.  we do not interact sexually with each other.  and whatever you choose to share about yourself is fully at your discretion.

we do not engage in sexual practices during our sessions. our current practices involve self-attunement, a reframing of the general sensation of pleasure as positive, acceptable, and celebrated, and an invitation to allow our own bodies greater permission to naturally experience themselves.  any embodied/self-sensual practices (sensual meaning noticing the sensations in our bodies or self-touch) are invitational. you are free to participate, modify, pause, or decline any practice. our emphasis is on taking responsibility for our own bodies and choices, welcoming what feels natural to us, and remaining attuned to our own needs and the needs of the group.

in this group we commit to an ongoing practice of learning to relate in a deeply consensual manner, practicing attunement to ourselves and each other and exploring what does and does not contribute to our felt sense of safety and presence.

i have one on one video interviews first with everyone i don’t know who wants to join, to help determine if this is the right space for them. if i have concerns about misaligned intent, voyeurism, or boundary-pushing, they will not be invited to the group.  
 

what our rituals are like

in my framework, rituals have three core components: 1. entering with reverence, 2. welcoming spiritual support (in whatever way feels true to you) and 3. welcoming uncertainty.  

our rituals will be generated based on the expressed difficulties, intentions, and desires of the group.  as noted above, we do not interact sexually with each other during rituals.  we remain attuned to our own experience, and practice welcoming whatever is occurring within our own bodies.  we create the ritual space together through practicing moving with and voicing whatever is happening within us, while remaining attuned to the shared field we have created together.

my approach as a facilitator

my guiding intent is that these groups remain a place for embodied learning through tangible practice and relational connection and mirroring. 

i believe that we all have wisdom to share, and am learning to create spaces where the personal power and leadership capacities of each individual can emerge and grow, in service to the collective. 

i hold the container to help us maintain a space where:

• every participant has room and is invited to engage
• we increasingly learn to attune to the group environment as a living being we are all caring for
• individuals’ boundaries and consent are honored
• small embodied shifts and experiences are prioritized

i value embracing discomfort while honoring our sacred innate intelligence, cultivating self love and acceptance, gentleness, warmth, clarity, and humility.

what you can expect from me

• i won't assume i know what's best for you
• i won't interpret your experience for you without invitation
• i will intervene when something is happening that threatens the safety or integrity of the group
• i will support people in finding their own boundaries rather than deciding their boundaries for them
   

what this space asks of you

• come prepared to practice honesty about your experience, sharing your limits and desires as best you know how
• bring the truth, difficulty, beauty, and wisdom of whatever you are really experiencing in life
• allow yourself the potential to meet discomfort in new ways and honor it as a place for growth
• come with the intention to include yourself in what’s happening and be open to the possibility of relational learning
• be ready to be surprised by peace and joy :)
   

what this space does not promise

this is a gentle, conscientious, and trauma-aware space, but it is not expressly for trauma recovery or psychological recovery.  if you are experiencing distress or a dangerous mental state, please seek more directed support. 
 

practical details

see schedule under “what we'll explore” (above)
on Zoom
$40/month
reach out for alternate exchange options
 

a little invite to experience the inquiry

5 min grief & pleasure meditation with hannah
 

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grief & pleasure agreements

this is our current understanding.  these agreements are open to amendment as the group develops, and open to your own personalization as a participant.

here, my body belongs to me.
my pleasure belongs to me.
my pleasure is welcome, and celebrated.
i cultivate pleasure for its own sake.
i cultivate my pleasure to bring more love, understanding, and wholeness to myself.

here, my grief is welcome.
my pain, discomfort, difficulty, and numbness are honored.
i am invited and encouraged to share exactly whatever is true for me and my body in this moment. i don’t need to justify my experience.
pleasure is not superior to grief.
grief is not superior to pleasure.
each experience is a place to practice welcoming, attuning to, and meeting what is real.

here, we practice allowing energy to move and to flow, while honoring the places where it is blocked. 
i honor the signals my body sends me. 
i begin to notice where internal forcefulness could benefit from more gentleness. 
i learn to know and respect my own body, because i am worthy of love and respect.
i learn to know and respect my own body, so i can more fully love and respect other bodies.